Aftercare: why it matters and how to agree on it in advance

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18+. Informational material about consent culture. No sensationalism and no step‑by‑step instructions.

Aftercare is post‑care: a short period after an emotionally intense interaction when people need to recover and return to their normal baseline.

Why it matters

Aftercare reduces the chance of an emotional “drop”, feelings of emptiness, and conflicts caused by misunderstandings.

How to agree on it in advance

  1. What helps you “come back” (talking/silence/warmth)?
  2. How much time are you willing to set aside for aftercare?
  3. How do you close the contact after (a short “are you okay?” message)?

Red flags

  • dismissing your needs;
  • rushing and cutting contact off immediately;
  • refusing to discuss aftercare;
  • ignoring requests for a pause/water/silence.

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Disclaimer: 18+. Adults only, voluntary consent, and compliance with local laws.

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